Here’s a question…….. If you could attend the University of Life – what subjects would you want to see on the curriculum?
As our thoughts naturally turn to love on St Valentine’s Day I thought I would consider a slightly unusual concept of love. One that I would never have considered possible two years ago.
How does this sound to you? I truly love the man who caused me the most pain in my life.
For the last two years, I have managed to get myself to the point of being grateful for what he put me through because it tested me to the limit and showed me what inner strength I had. It showed me that I could stay positive (just about!) in the face of adversity and with the huge amount of love from my family and friends. That is what kept me going in the early days.
Then I moved onto a state of forgiveness. I realised that he could not really help himself in terms of how he behaved and this was deeply engrained in him from childhood trauma. I realised that I was dealing with his own fearful inner child, manifesting itself in a scary adult ‘monster’ in my business world.
I was convinced I had got myself into a really good place about this man until he resurfaced in my life again last week. I got the same feelings I used to have as soon as I saw his name come up in my inbox. It appeared that he was also the same old same old and was using attack as defense. I was a bit cross and disappointed at myself – because I really did think I had got over him.
So how have I managed to switch in the space of a year from hatred, anger and fear to absolute unconditional love for this man.
I had a massive ‘light bulb moment’!
I began to look at things from a soul level.
I now know through experience and being on this incredible journey of life that we are here to simply learn lessons. At a soul level we enter into an agreement to play our part in each other’s ‘hero’ story. This might be a slightly difficult concept for some to take on board so I would ask that you read this with an open mind. What I know is that as a soul we have a mission ‘a soul purpose’ as some would call it. We carry out this mission over many lifetimes and in between lives we review what has happened. Each life is meticulously planned and we enter into an agreement with other souls in terms of the role they will play in our own lives.
So what was this man’s role in the play I call my life? What was he here to help me learn and did he carry out his purpose?
I have come to realise that he was here to act as a trigger for my awakening. It was not going to happen gently. It had to happen with a great big jolt! I needed to be ‘jolted’ out of my sleepy reverie.
My life has transformed as a result.
I know who I really am.
I know why I am here.
I am excited about the path before me and everything seems to flow magically my way.
I have the most amazing people around me and I love them all to bits. Many of these people have only been in my life for a short time and yet I feel so much love for them.
I feel calm, peaceful, excited, joyous and light all at the same time (well…most of the time…I am only human after all!)
So when I was in a discussion with a friend yesterday and we talked about a similar position she was in – I found myself saying that I truly love the man who everyone thought I should hate.
And I sincerely do because he carried out his soul agreement in my life to perfection and made himself pretty unpopular into the bargain. He must have known that. He chose to deliver on his role in my life knowing it would have very negative repercussions for him personally and he still delivered spectacularly on it..
His actions did exactly what they were destined to do.
He awakened the inner hero in me….and for that..I truly love him.
I well and truly entered the University of Life and that is why I ask this question. I learned so much from my experiences and from others who had gone through similar.
I have a passion to help others who may be going through similar and that is why I ask the question because I know this is my destiny.
So I would love to hear your thoughts on what should be in the curriculum for a University of Life.
What would you like to learn, where would you value a guidance and support and how would you like to access this and be involved? This is being developed with a team of global partners right now and I would really value your input.
You can reply back on Facebook or this blog or email me directly at Vivienne.firstname.lastname@example.org
Lots and lots of love……Vivienne xxxxx